I have been thinking about.....................eye contact, especially between parent and child since reading A General Theory of Love by Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini and Richard Lannon. These three psychiatrists describe how gazing into the eyes of a loved one connects one limbic brain to the other which creates "limbic resonance" between the two individuals. Our emotions originate in the limbic brain. The eye gazing from parent to infant in the early months lays the foundation for a secure attachment by allowing emotional regulation and emotional connnection between parent and baby.
When you wish to communicate effectively with your child, ask for his hands, gaze into her eyes and then tell the child how much you cherish him. This emotional connection serves to strengthen the parent/child bond. This is also an effective way to insure that your child listens to you. It is hard for children to ignore parental directions when they are delivered this intimately. I call it Eye to Eye, Hand to Hand, Heart to Heart communicaiton. Try this at home when you have something to communicate to your child.
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